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Monday, January 4, 2010

Open Question: Safety tips for women in cities? and more...

 


Open Question: Safety tips for women in cities? and more...

Open Question: Safety tips for women in cities?
 

I am a woman in her early twenties who moved to an urban area a month ago. I don't have a car and use public transportation to commute and walk to and from the train station and, also, the grocery store. I cannot help from coming home from work after dark sometimes, but I do all my grocery shopping during the day. Yesterday, as I was walking home with my groceries in the early afternoon, two young men attacked me, threw me to the ground, and took my purse. I won't go over the inconvenience of everything that was lost. My greater concern is the serious blow that they dealt to my feeling of security. The keys to the front door of the apartment complex and to my own apartment were in my purse. My apartment manager says that he will change my locks, but I think that the lock should be changed on the front door of the building as well. My first question is, how can I make sure that this happens? I am especially concerned because, during the short span of my tenancy, this manager has displayed an amazing aptitude for smoking pot and engaging me in long, awkward conversations in the hall, and very little desire to do any actual work. Also, when I was mugged, he said, "Wow, I heard someone screaming for help downstairs. If I knew it was you, I would have been down there, like, f---ing that." Um, thank you? Also! I am now just constantly afraid because even though I always accepted, in the abstract, that cities are relatively dangerous places for young women to walk around by themselves, I couldn't really conceive of some stranger not caring if he hurt me. And nearly every day, and sometimes three times a day, some man will call out to me while I'm walking, and there's this one particular fifty-ish Hispanic man who hangs around a liquor store near the train station (he might work there, I have no idea) and, it would seem, only knows the word "be-yoot-ful" in English. Then there are the black guys who slow down in there cars or hang around the street outside my complex. These men are everywhere, and they scare me, and I just ignore them, don't even look at them, when they talk to me, but now I guess I have to admit that not making eye-contact with strangers is not the comprehensive self-defense strategy I once thought it to be. I feel like I don't even want to leave my apartment anymore, or work at the end of the day, and I couldn't sleep last night for how upset I was, and I've been crying all day because I don't know what to do. I am scared and I don't know a soul in this city and I can't afford to move, so I guess my main question is if anyone has lived in a city for a long time or knows much about preventing or avoiding theft or being approached by strange men, please let me know. Thank you.

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Open Question: Is it a good idea to buy a used stuffed animal off of Ebay?
 

I really want to buy a Care Bear off of Ebay because they're not sold anymore. And, while sellers write "comes from a smoke-free, pet-free" home, I'm worried that that still may not be the case. Some people don't think their home has an odor of any sort, but they do. I once bought books off of Ebay that had a musty smell maybe because of where they were stored. Would washing the stuffed animal in a pillowcase take care of the smell if I was to find out that the toy I bought has an odor?

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Open Question: I am making a blog for the first time and I need some ideas, pronto!?
 

What are some unusual things to do for a 13 year old at home? I need fun ideas and lots of them! Thank you! :)

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Open Question: Hi my husband and I are thinking about becoming foster parents want some input if this is a good idea?
 

We don't have any kids are planning on getting pregnant in about a year. We have plenty of room in our home for the foster kids we have 3 extra bedrooms and 2 extra bathrooms we also have another living room that we would make up for them to hang out in and play games. We want to do this to help out the kids and put them in a good enviroment. So I guess what I'm asking is we want some other opinions or some input from someone who has done the before

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Open Question: How can I get a package delivered to my house without my parents finding out?
 

Ok so I want to buy something online without my parents finding out. (It's legal, but I still don't want them finding out. Please leave out all the 'just wait until you move out' and 'lying to your parents is bad'.) To buy it, I know I can just pick up a prepaid mastercard or visa at a gas station (Do you have to be 18 to buy these though? And since they're prepaid, they don't hook up to my bank account do they?) Anyway, the trouble is getting the package without them seeing it.They won't open it, but they'll see the label and make me tell them what it is. I can't get it sent to a friends house because I don't know whos parents tamper. I was thinking I could just call FedEx of UPS and have them hold it at their building or store or whatever for me to pick up, but I don't know if you can do that. Also, I can't drive and there's no public transit I can get to by walking from here. If I ask my sis to drive me she'll want to know what it is and she'll snitch. Do you guys have any creative ideas? I don't think I can just wait around at home outside for it to come, because I'm too busy with sports and it's hard to tell when it'll arrive. Help please!! Gift won't work either because they'll read the sticker. If you tell me not to do it save your breath because I'll ignore you! Sorry, I really wasn't sure on the category lol.

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Open Question: Gums growing over braces?
 

I have had braces for 16 months now and I've noticed for the last 2 months or so my gums have been growing over my teeth, the next to my eye teeth on the top row, towards the back of my mouth. It's only those two on the top row. I have no idea why this is happening. I went to the dentist and they said there is nothing they can do about it. Is there anything at home I can do about it?

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Open Question: Friend being abuse advice?
 

For the past 2 years my friend has been abused by her dad but now it has really gotten out of hand to the point where she has a busted lip puffed up face and bruises all over..She thinks that she deserves this but i know no one deserves to be treated like this. Me and my friend that i've known since 3rd grade reported it about 2 months ago. Her dad doesn't like me or my friend because apparently we are a bad influence to her and we introduced her to sex drugs and guys WTH WE ARE IN THE 8TH GRADE WHERE THE FUCK WOULD WE GET THAT KINDA SHIT. We are the ones telling her to stay away from her boyfriend that emotionally abuses her way too much. They had done some sexually things and we were worried as heck. I think she should stay away from her boyfriend because he keeps doing things be-hide her back but she doesn't want to accept it this part is kinda off topic but anyways. Her dad was going to beat her with silverware until they break. She ran away from home and came over to my friends house. He called the cops because she was missing and he gets in trouble for beating her and leaving bruises all over her body. I think that he got a warning and that the next time this happens he is going to jail and she would have to go into foster care. Also my friends mom is whiling to take her in if she does get into the situation were she has to go another family. During this winter break she got her phone back and she called her boyfriend her dad found out and threw her phone out the window and broke it even though her mom is paying for it and she has no idea that it is broken. Her dad busted her lip bruised up her face and her face was all swollen. He sent her to her aunts house i think he did that so no one would find out but i noticed a bruise on her face and i asked her what happened.. i was talking to my friends mom about this and i started crying i really want to do something about this but i'm not sure if i should because she doesn't want her dad to go to jail but i know its the right thing to do and the next time this happens i don't know what i will do..

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Open Question: to kill a mockingbird take home hellp!! PLEASE last minute?
 

i have no idea n this is for a take home In his final argument before the jruy, Atticus says that there is one human institution which makes us all equal and that is a church b a family c a legistlature d a court

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Open Question: Anyone want to give me ideas on focusing?
 

I'm a student in school, and when it comes to tests, i know the work in class, but then I go home and try to study for a test, I just can't concentrate! I get distracted by so many things. Like the computer, or tv, or guitar, or piano, or food. How can I stay focused while sort of having a good time studying?

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Open Question: I need help with ideas for a video remake of Nick Jonas' video of "Who I Am"?
 

PLEASE READ: Okay so before I go further into this, please don't say anything bad about Nick Jonas or his brothers or their music. And also, please don't decide not to help me just because this has to do with Nick Jonas or anything like that. I'd really like to hear what ideas everyone has. I respect your opinion if you don't like them; Hey, I probably don't like someone you do, but I'm not going to make fun of them or not help you because I don't like them. WHAT I NEED HELP WITH: Okay so I'm in a class called Digital Media, and our newest assignment is to make a Music Video with our group. I teacher said you CAN remake a music video. I really want to remake the video "Who I Am" by Nick Jonas, not just because I love him and his music, but also because I was really inspired by the message the video gave(if you have not seen the video here it is: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qvsHndxWvhU&fmt=18). MY IDEA: My idea was instead of having people hold up the boards saying who they were, to have things people are insecure of. For example, a girl holding a sign saying "I hate my weight" or "I snort when I laugh" and stuff along those lines. So the whole idea is that the song is saying "I want someone to love me for who I am" and people are holding signs saying all this stuff they don't like about themselves, but they still want someone to love them because that just makes who they are. Also, I wanted to start the video off with a girl getting told off by a group of people who are maybe calling her fat or ugly or telling her she'll never fit in. Then she could run off or something and thats when the scenes with all the people and their signs will come in. In the end, I can have that girl continue her story with her going home and having a supporting family and group of friends or something. I really need help making this idea REALLY good because there's around 65 people pitching ideas, and only about 20 will get chosen to make their video and I REALLY want to make my video. If you have any ideas AT ALL or any alterations to my ideas PLEASE state them. Thanks in advance(:

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Open Question: Long but please read. Can pernicious anemia be brought on by a hormonal change?
 

First off, a little background info. I am a 16 year old female of otherwise good health. Healthy weight and zip drug use (unless you consider minocycline a drug) or alcohol use, but I hardly ever exercise. Anyway, about a year ago I got hit something nasty with this fog (figuratively speaking) that I just couldn't shake and I started getting headaches almost every day. (These headaches were/are not worse in the morning) I am an aspiring writer so I first noticed it in that, despite my abundance of ideas, I couldn't string two words together. Then I started to feel tired ALL the time, if I got at least 11 hours of sleep I would be ok for the day as long as I didn't go out, but if I went shopping or anything, even for an hour or two, I would fall asleep for the short car ride home. More recently, I have had extreme difficulty concentrating in my classes and my short term memory appears to have packed up and abandoned me. Even as I write I am having to read through my previous text far more times than I ought to just to check what I have already written. Even more recently I have been getting aches in my extremities, my sense of balance is non-existent, and my movements have become jerky. If I get even slightly hungry it seems like my heart rate skyrockets, I have become apathetic about my grades and activities that were previously stimulating (though I am not depressed), my teachers complain that I sigh with extreme frequency, I have had some very strange vision changes (see my other questions for details), and my hands and feet get an fall asleep and get tingly very easily. I probably would have continued to wallow in my discomfort if my tutor hadn't mentioned that my difficulty focusing may be anemia related. I started doing some research and I realized that pretty much all of symptoms, to my untrained eye at least, fit with pernicious anemia. Anyway, the odd thing is, all of this seemed to start around the time I started getting my periods, which brings me back to my original question; could all of this have been caused by the hormone changes of me starting my period? Or am I just completely completely wrong? Thanks for any help you can give me!

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Open Question: Ideas on how to stay active?
 

I'm a teenage girl. I'm home-schooled. I love to be alone, very artistic. I spend way too much time on Y!A (a sad addiction..I know haha!). I just love to cuddle up on the couch and watch a movie or something. Home is where I feel safe. I know I don't need to lose weight (I need to gain, if anything) but I feel like I need to become more fit. What are some ways that I can keep my body healthy? I know...EXCERSISE and eat your fruits and veggies!!! But what else? thanks :)

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Open Question: What is a BlackBox and where is it in my home?
 

My home phone is not working at the moment, and I called my provider and they told me to find my BlackBox and reset it, I thought it was the board with all the switches to power the house. So I hung up and searched for the reset button, turns out it was not the BlackBox. Anyone have any idea where it would be? Inside or Outside??

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Open Question: What should I do?? I REALLY HATE school!(Not the same as the question I asked earlier)?
 

I have NO idea why, but I just DON'T want to go to school. I broke down crying this morning because I didn't want to go, and I didn't go, but it wasn't like a free day staying home and watching TV. I just worked on school work as if I WAS at school. I was happy all day and I loved it. Every time I think about school now, I just start to cry. Even now, I'm seriously crying. The thing is, I don't know WHY I hate school SO much. -It's not that the work is too hard. Actually, it's the opposite. MUCH too easy. -It's not that I'm being bullied. People don't bully me or talk about me behind my back(that I know of). -It's not that my teachers are mean. In fact, most of them are pretty nice. -It's not that I don't have any friends, though I do seem to be annoyed with the "friends" I do have. -X-x-X-x-X- I just don't know what to do. I told my mom today that I just needed a little break and that I would be up and ready for school tomorrow, but, now that I'm thinking about it, I'm starting to cry again and I'm just DREADING going back. How should I explain this to my parents? They think I'm just being lazy or that people are picking on me and that's honestly NOT what it is! I just don't know! HELP! Also, don't tell me to talk to my parents because they just laugh at me when I'm crying and think I'm just being lazy. You might think I'm lying, but I can honestly say that I'm not. That's what happened today. I seriously crying my eyes out and begging my mom to let me stay home for just one day and she just started laughing in my face.

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Open Question: Question about moving to California?
 

I live in Texas and my mom is having trouble getting a job and my dad has a decent job at an oil field service. There both looking for better jobs though. And were thinking about moving to California, if they can find decent jobs there what's a good idea job for a man that works outside and has experience with stuff like that and an average stay at home mom. Oh and where would a good place to rent a 3 bedroom house be.

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Open Question: How do I connect my PC to my new Sony Mu.te.ki home theatre system?
 

I want to run my PC sound through my new Sony Mu.te.ki HT-DDW7500 home theatre system. With my old Yamaha home theatre system I simple connected my PC via the digital output using a coaxial cable. I have connected my PC to my mu.te.ki system this way, but I have no idea what component to select on the mu.te.ki receiver to achieve sound. I've tried them all and no sound. Please help!

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Open Question: Is my computer capable of having a SSD, if so, what one?
 

Ok, I am wanting to buy a ssd for my computer, but I have no idea if they are, and which ones, are compatible with my computer, here is the specs.... . mesh computer desktop windows vista home premium 32 bit intel core 2 quad cpu Q6600 2.40 GHz 2.40 GHz 4.00 gb RAM any help that you can give me would be much aprreciated Oh, I am not wanting to spend much more then £300 and ideally I don't want the SSD to be smaller then 128Gb but preferably bigger if possible

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